You need to prioritize your goals instead

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Are you feeling overwhelmed because you have too much to do? I will share an idea that might help.

Stop trying to prioritize your projects. Yes, you heard me right.

When you feel consistently overwhelmed, putting your tasks on an urgent-important Eisenhower matrix will not be enough.

You need to step back and prioritize your goals instead. What’s more, you need to let most of your goals go, as much as it pains you.

Robert Brault said: “We are kept from our goal not by obstacles but by a clear path to a lesser goal.”

This concept is so powerful…

How to pick yourself up

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“You won’t be promoted this round,” my manager said. Her words felt like a knife entering my heart. I felt devastated. In the days that followed, I needed to pick myself up.

I turned into the greats for inspiration. How did they deal with failure?

Counterintuitively, successful people fail more, not less. That’s because they go after even bigger goals rather than staying in their comfort zone.

Failure is painful. Learning how to bounce back from it is the key to being successful.

Here are three ways that have worked for the greats and for me.

Do not let rejection get to you

In life, people will…

Could you be subconsciously sabotaging your success?

Is fear of success even a thing? Apparently, it is. And it is sneakier than the fear of failure as it is harder to identify.

Even if you acknowledge it, you are more likely to keep it to yourself as you do not think other people will understand. After all, fear of success sounds so unreasonable.

Let’s unpack it. Here are seven different forms of fear of success:

1. Success comes with a sacrifice.

Laura never pursued a lot of money in her career. Recently, she joined a coaching group working on financial health. The coach asked the group to remember the wealthiest person they knew…

How our mind distorts our reality

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We all have defences that distort our reality. To grow as leaders, we need to increase our self-awareness. Knowing our defences is a great first step. Here are the most common:

1. Avoidance or Denial

A coaching client of mine was stressed about money. But, she kept postponing doing a budget to clarify how much she needed. I was definitely in denial about the severity of Covid last February. Do you avoid facing the stuff that stresses you?

2. Numbness

Many of us numb our emotions with food, nicotine, Netflix, or alcohol. We try to numb our pain. The problem is that numbness does not work…

We ignore the purpose that’s under our nose

In 95% of my coaching sessions, my clients tell me they want to work for a purpose-driven company.

As humans, we need to feel useful to a purpose larger than ourselves. And our generation is increasingly putting purpose above profit.

But, in our pursuit of purpose, we make some mistakes, which I would like to explore with you today.

We over-index on purpose and forget pleasure

I often coach overworked leaders who, between their job and family obligations, have neglected themselves. On the surface, it sounds like a noble thing to do; the philosophers said so:

“I cannot believe that the purpose of life is to be…

In the scale-up stage, it is all about the people.

Workable Employees Working Together

Nikos Moraitakis and Spyros Magiatis launched Workable in 2012. They were frustrated with the effort it took to recruit suitable candidates, and they decided to fix it. Six years and 50 million candidates later, Workable was already the leading hiring platform in the world. They had offices across three continents and hundreds of employees.

In November 2018, they raised an additional $50 million to make the company even better. A couple of months later, I received a call from the CEO Nikos Moraitakis. He wanted to discuss coaching.

“I care about my leaders,” he told me. …

Five founders share how they overcame their fear.

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It was time. My best friend at work said that he would walk me out of the building and take my badge. I would not be a Google employee anymore.

“It is the first day of the rest of my life,” I posted on social media.

I wanted to spend the rest of my life as an entrepreneur. I felt “uncomfortably excited.”

After leaving my cushy job to start a business, I coached several other leaders to do the same. For this article, I interviewed some of these leaders to give you an insight into this transition. …

How to reconnect with yourself in this hectic world

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Do you find it difficult to reconnect with yourself? When you feel something in your life is not quite working as you would like? When you believe you are not good enough? When you neglect your self-care to serve others?

I want to share with you three simple, yet effective strategies that helped my clients reconnect and realign with themselves. Here are their insightful stories.

Be compassionate with yourself

Ryan felt like a fraud at work. He got intimidated by colleagues who were good at their jobs. He thought that their competence meant that he was less worthy himself. He constantly sought affirmation from…

It’s not them, it’s you

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I would never want to manage an employee like myself in my 20s. I resented following orders. I disliked it when my boss got to present my work instead of me. I often thought that I would prefer not to have a boss. I was a nightmare.

Early on, I could get away with it. I avoided much contact with my bosses and focused on being good at my job. I was lucky enough to have many managers who enjoyed my independence and were happy to delegate. I quickly rose through the ranks.

But, at some point, my disdain towards…

Do not feel guilty to embrace joy

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I read on my Facebook feed that some people struggle to feel grateful right now. I was surprised. I feel more gratitude than ever. Some people feel horrible because they have been hit really hard by the pandemic. For others, the current situation has triggered mental health issues. We need to help both of those groups.

I believe that there is a third miserable group. They are the ones who believe that it is their duty to be sad this period, given the suffering there is in the world. They are wrong.

By feeling horrible you are not helping anyone…

Caterina Kostoula

Executive Coach at Former Google business leader. Fast Company & Thrive Global Contributor.

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